by Carol Clemans
Addiction to pornography can happen with one 20-minute exposure. I heard this stated by experts in the field on a Focus on the Family program a few years ago. In my 19 years of being a certified pastoral counselor, I’ve had to work with many people who are addicted to pornography.
I call it the ‘silent’ killer because it’s a subject the church does not like to deal with. But this addiction kills the person’s relationship with God, self, and others. The experts say it is the most destructive addiction one can have even above other drug or alcohol abuse in the fight to recover and be victorious. The reason is because the addicted person who ‘acts out’ while viewing pornography is producing a self-induced chemical high that is more powerfully addicting than any other substance that creates an insatiable desire.
This addiction ‘kills’ marriages. The images engraved in the memory of the user of porn do not leave. The users have told me that the porn images are constantly on their mind. Porn addiction consumes every waking hour. This addiction steals the person’s soul. The time invested in the addiction needs to be the time invested in a relationship with God and others. Because porn is available through the Internet, lay men/women, pastors and children can find and use it.
The addiction must be exposed. The addicted person needs an accountability partner (not spouse). He/she needs Bible based counseling for spiritual healing and helping them understand how they have destroyed their marriage relationship and how to build it on godly principles.
I address this subject in my book GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE in the chapter “Protect the Sexual Purity of Your Marriage” including references for healing. Order by sending $12 check to LEM, INC. 1437 N. Denver Ave. Ste. #251, Loveland, CO 80538.
Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/inspirational Bible teacher for conferences. She provides counseling nationwide by phone & web cam (636) 448-0121. Go to: www.carolclemans.org for additional products and bio info.