by Carol Clemans –
It’s amazing to me that in this modern day we still hear statements, “She’s never worked a day in her life. She’s a stay-at-home Mom!” Having been an 8 – 5 employee as an administrative secretary in my young years (five years before marriage and five years after), I know what it is like to be in the work force. When I became a mother, I only worked a few months longer and then my husband and I decided I should quit working outside the home and begin the most major challenge in the world. Being a full time mom is the greatest position to have and the outcome of a mom’s influence will last throughout eternity.
Is it work? YES, it is work! There’s an old saying, “A man’s work is from dawn till set of sun, but a woman’s work is never done.” There is no truer statement. When you are a new mom, babies do not know day from night. Lack of sleep is one of the major problems. Because moms love their children, they sacrifice and do whatever it takes to provide their children’s needs. They can’t punch the time clock at 8 a.m. and punch out of work at 5 p.m. Children’s demands are 24 hours a day.
The stay-at-home mom is a domestic engineer with a major job description. She’s the administrator of the family. She’s the anchor of the home. It’s been estimated that if a husband had to hire someone to do all his stay-at-home wife does, he would be paying over $100,000 a year. She’s the meal planner, grocery shopper, chef, maid, chauffer, counselor, accountant, wardrobe supplier, school volunteer, event planner, decorator, family coordinator, spiritual influence, relationship expert, teacher of life’s principles, many are home school teachers, etc., etc. You get the ‘picture’ by now. The Bible calls it the ‘keeper’ of the home.
If the mom has a second job outside the home, she has two full time jobs. I see no need for a professional woman to make a ‘put down’ remark about any woman who chooses to be a full time domestic engineer.
I’m a woman who attended college before marriage. During the eight years I home schooled my children, I continued taking college classes. When I became a certified pastoral counselor, I went to work for 15 hours a week at a local church. My children did not like me being gone even part time from home.
The most valuable thing I have done in my life is to love, nurture, and care for my children. No matter what I may do on this earth, nothing will be as lasting as the spiritual ‘footprint’ I left in the heart of my children that gave them their heartfelt desire to love and serve God. I’m a conference speaker, an author and a counselor who through these resources have touched thousands of lives across the nation for God’s glory. But nothing is more important than my being a mom who nurtured two children through to adulthood who will live eternally with their Creator.
© Carol Clemans – April 2012
Carol Clemans is a Cert. Pastoral Counselor/Christian Life Coach/conference speaker. She provides nationwide counseling by phone & web cam – (636) 448-0121. Go to: www.carolclemans.org for bio, teaching CD’s, book: GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE.