This is a booklet I have nothing to gain in writing. My motivation to write is weak; in fact I have put it off for months as a non-priority. I should mind my own business. –I know. Disciplining children is like religion; everybody thinks they’re right.
As I raise my children, I constantly watch other parents. Not necessarily out of respect, but if there is even one thing they are doing better, I steal it and apply it to my parenting technique. I’m simply passing along to you the single most important point of my years of observation.
If you are convinced you are raising the best-behaved children in the world and there is no room for improvement, give this booklet to someone else; you’ve just signed up for a lifetime of heartache — then bend down and ask your kids for their forgiveness of your pride and selfishness. When you refuse to love your children by properly disciplining them, you are turning your sweet, sweet babies into hellions that are not only spoiled rotten, but will give you and your closest relatives headaches for years and years. You’ll also begin wondering why your close friends seem to be fading or “just too busy”. No one will tell you anything; they’ll just avoid you. Maybe someone has dropped this booklet in your purse or bag. You are reading this now because someone cared enough about you to try to help; not because they are “better than you”. That’s silly. We’re all broken. We’re all learning. If you refuse to consider improving then you fail.
Fortunately the solution to get your sweet child back is simple. First, you must show love and spend time with your kids. If you asked them, would they say that you are their biggest ally and supporter? If they don’t, start there. I know your children are the smartest, cutest, and can leap buildings in a single bound, but still, ALL kids require spankings. If you don’t believe this, you are misled. You will raise a very “loved” brat. Again, are your friends and relatives avoiding your family? A simple, hard spanking solves mountains of hardship and heartache for you.
Without anger or yelling, and after only one warning, bare the bottom and slap it with your hand about 10 times almost as hard as you can. No more, no less; and no where else on the child’s body. When the cry of rebellion turns to a cry of desperation; stop. I have heard of parents who say their child will always remain defiant no matter what. Wrong. Simple solution, spank harder. There’s only one authority.
If there is a tantrum when you’re finished, you are half done. Do NOT yell and scream; THAT is abuse. Do not slap a face. Tell your child once and then expect obedience…don’t sit watching for a response – you are the leader!! Turn your back in trust. If they back-talk or ignore, spank as outlined above. Remember ONCE only! Then spank. You will have the best behaved children in town and regain their beauty and sweetness before you turned them into youthful pre-convicts.
Your child is not stupid, if you refuse to spank in public, that’s when they will embarrass you. Take them to the bathroom. Do this once, twice at most, and you’re done with it.
Immediately after the whimpering stops, take your most precious gift in your arms and explain why you had to discipline. It’s not your child; it’s what they did. If you are a believer, explain God disciplines His children as well.
Disciplining your child displays your own self-discipline. It shows your child that you believe in what you say and your willingness to back it up. THIS will always deliver respect and even admiration. In the animal world, there is quick and harsh discipline from mothers. Ever seen an old cow getting beat up by her nursing calf when the milk is gone? One good kick to the head usually does it. A momma lion’s loud, irritated growl and quick paw to the fanny of a too-playful youngster sends him reeling. We’ve all seen a momma dog snap at her young, energetic children when she’s had enough. We are the most intelligent animal, and so we give warnings. Give one, not 10. Even provide a time-out spot. But eventually you need to be able to back up your directives. All children need and truly do want clear boundaries in their lives. They might fight boundaries, but you’re doing a huge disservice not to provide them. And enforce them.
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